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Series: Relationships Unders Attack

Filed under: Blog — Pastor David Sep 13, 2010 @ 12:14 pm

Series: Relationships Under Attack
Part: Torpedo #3, Neglect
Bible Passage: Luke 22:28-30Maybe you have complained about a relationship you value:

“I just do not have the time to talk to her or him.”
“I have been so busy lately.”
“We have not had time to catch up on what is going on in each other’s lives.”

What happens when we neglect, or are too busy for, each other?

Weeds grow instead of healthy plants.

There are 1200 types of weeds in North America alone!

There are three different types of weeds: grassy-type weeds, grass-like weeds and broadleaf weeds.

Grassy-type weeds are actual grasses that germinate and grow just like the grasses that we actually want in our lawns. Examples of grassy-type weeds are foxtails, goosegrass, crabgrass and quackgrass, to name just a few.

Grass-like weeds look like grass, but upon closer inspection the stems are not round like regular grass, but rather triangular. Grass-like weeds include wild garlic, nutsedge and star of Bethlehem.

Broadleaf weeds are some of the most common and those with which we are most familiar. Broadleaf weeds, as their name suggests, have broad leaves that are wide and flat, and set up on a stem much like a flower. Veins in the leaves are often net-like. Some examples of broadleaf weeds are dandelions, ground ivy, white clover, chick weed, carpet weed and violets, to name only a few.

Weeds can grow all year round, not just during the summer months, though that is usually when they are most abundant. Most weeds can be kept under control in gardens by tilling the soil before the crops are planted. Many gardeners use herbicides to kill weeds, but many of these must be used before tilling and planting, as they will often kill any existing plants in the area. Other gentler herbicides can be used on some vegetables and plants, but not on others.

How do we protect ourselves and our relationships from weeds?

Clear the ground and get rid of the weeds. Weeds are unwanted, grow overnight, fast growing, grow anywhere, contagious, grow at all times of the year, take over and hard to get rid of. They take constant care and focus to keep them out of our gardens. We can never give up in the battle because they will not give up, fighting to take over.

The weeds I’m speaking of are weeds of…
Forgetfulness, v.19 (remember me)
Apathy, v.15 (earnestly)
Selfishness and disinterest, v.19 (given for you)
Ignorance, v.16 (I say to you…)
Insensitivity, v.21 (betraying)
Disregard, distraction v.19 (remember)
Distortion, misunderstanding, and confusion all grow until they take over the relationship and kill it.

Jesus’ plan was an ongoing relationship cultivated over time (v.28) “You have stood by Me…”

“stood” means staying for a long time, remaining, not leaving, or abandoning the other, but staying faithful and true, loyal.

The only way to get rid of the weeds and keep them away is by taking the time to pay attention to the relationship.

Time together is key for attention, affection, and affirmation.

Love is deliberate and planned.

Love deepens when we endure, i.e. when it is hard to stay (“in My trials.” v.28)

The number one relationship which impacts all other relationships is your relationship to Christ.

The Rewards from being with Christ
There is always a cost to follow any dream, but there are also rewards. What are the rewards from developing our relationship with Christ?
1. The knowledge, joy, personal experiences of being with Christ (v.28)
2. The inclusion in Christ’s kingdom blessings (now and in the future) v.29 (see also 1 Cor. 3:21-23)
3. The personal attention, affirmation, and affection of Christ v.30
4. The increased opportunity to serve Christ in larger ways v.30

Will you put your life on the path of deepening your relationship with Christ? It is the wisest and best way to live everyday.

I’d like to know what “weeds” God has revealed to you in your life. Please leave a comment.